I’m Not In Love movie review

MOVIE TITLE: I’m Not In Love

This British romantic comedy is now available in theaters

RATING: R

LENGTH: 1 hour 24 minutes

IN A NUTSHELL:

Ah, romantic love. It’s so much fun falling in love…the butterflies in the stomach…the exciting thrill of holding hands or kissing for the first time. This movie shows what happens after the comfort level, and even boredom, set into a relationship. Can you love someone but not be in love? How do you know if it’s true love? Some might call this comedy an anti-rom-com because it paints a pretty bleak, realistic, yet still hopeful picture of relationships.

The story is about Rob, who is in his late thirties. He needs to decide if he wants to have a baby with his girlfriend Marta, but he’s worried that he’s fallen out of love with her. He asks his unhappily married friends for advice. They all tell him that he won’t be able to do better so he might as well marry her. Over the course of two weeks, his friend Chris tries to set him up on a date, he meets up with the woman he thought was the great love of his life, he tries to get to grips with the idea of “settling”, and attempts to resolve his issues. But when Rob eventually does propose to Marta, things don’t go exactly to plan.

THINGS I LIKED:

The opening credits that showed pictures of cast members as kids were creative and fun.
While the film is British, the cast is quite international, starring Al Weaver and Cristina Catalina.
You can get a true glimpse of how a guy will treat you in the future by how he treats his mother. The main guy in the movie is super rude and disrespectful to his own mother, revealing what a real jerk he is. Pay attention, girls!
It’s fun to see everyday locations and life in England.
The film asks several interesting questions but doesn’t often answer them, leaving you to ponder your own answers. For example, one of the questions is if it’s okay to date your best friend’s ex. What do YOU think? Comment down below!
Watching the proposal was painfully delicious and Marta’s reaction was realistic and heartbreaking.
There are some golden nuggets of wisdom in the movie, particularly about happiness and service to others. The lessons taught are very subtle but powerful. The protagonist goes through a lot of experiences that slowly reveal his character and desires to himself. For most of us, it takes a lifetime to truly understand ourselves. While the story doesn’t “end”, there is some satisfying resolution of character growth in the story.
The ending leaves you wondering what will happen next, which I thought was a smart way to finish.

THINGS I DIDN’T LIKE:

Americans may find it difficult to understand everything that’s said because of the thick British accents.
It makes me sad that all of the marriages that are represented in the movie are terrible. I’m so grateful my marriage isn’t anything like the ones shown in the film. It would have been nice to balance the struggles of marriage with some of the joys. There are only a few split seconds in a montage that show anyone smiling with their partner. Life and marriage can be hard, so I wish the movie had illustrated some of the reasons why people stay together.
I didn’t like the protagonist at all (Rob Lloyd) and wanted Marta to kick him out of her apartment during the majority of the movie. It was hard to see what she saw in him.

TIPS FOR PARENTS:

This movie is inappropriate for kids, plus they’d be bored anyway.
Some profanity, crude language, and lots of F-bombs
An unmarried couple lives together. Someone in the movie describes it like “Well, the shackles are on but you don’t have the key.”
People try to hook up with a foursome in a hotel
Lots of talk of sex

THEMES:

Disposible relationships
Breakups
Infidelity
God vs. science
Duty
Responsibility
Selfishness vs. focusing on others
Happiness
Be. A. Man.
Hope
Choices
Choose your friends wisely because their advice to you could make or break you.

FUNNY LINES:

* “Maybe women have changed since we proposed.” – friend

INTERESTING LINES:

“Maybe it’s not just what’s on the outside.” – Rob Lloyd (Al Weaver)
“I don’t understand how you’re always so nice to people.” – Rob “It’s the secret to being happy.” – Marta (Cristina Catalina) ‘Is it or is it just the secret to making other people happy?” – Al “Well, the two things join together. You can’t split off your own happiness from other people’s happiness.” – Marta
“It was all fine until she wanted something from you.” – Lena (Sinead Matthews)
“It’s a basic misunderstanding about human life that there’s a 10 out of 10 person for you anyway.” – friend
“What’s the point of men, anyway?” – Marta (Cristina Catalina)